Why Saying Goodbye is ToughFamilyPet
I work with a wonderful, local rescue in my home town. And sometimes our work is just plain hopeless, thankless, and painful. We’ve had a difficult month. Two of our puppies have died. And several of the older dogs are in need of major medical help.
But you know, the hardest thing this month is the Director/Founder of LUV4K9s is having to make that most dreaded decision: is this the time to let one of your very best friends go?
It is often said that as humans we are fortunate to be able to say when the life of our pets are no longer positive and that it is time for euthanasia. We can’t do this with our family loved ones. But as a pet owner, that decision is pure misery. There is no good feeling saying “Yes, it is time.” And for our Founder/Director, it is just sad. She does so much for the dogs trapped in horrible breeding situations. She is always a phone call away from jumping in her car and going to the site of a puppy mill raid. And she always takes her little buddy with her. Now her little buddy is just too weak and sick to go on any longer. I saw her little buddy about a month ago and I could not believe that she was even still alive. But the heart is amazing. And her will to live was strong. They have been together for 11 years. and in those eleven years I do not think they have been apart for more than a few days at a time. But my friend knows it is now time. And my heart breaks for her. I know how it feels to sit on the floor holding your dear friend as they pass over. And just like losing a loved one, you do not forget the emptiness you feel as the life leaves your arms.
By the time this is published, the little girl will be gone. She will be at the Rainbow Bridge waiting patiently for my friend to arrive. And my friend will be recuperating. She will cry and cry, and probably cry some more. But she will go on knowing that she has a big job to do. She has so many other dogs who need her now.
I know many of us have faced this trauma in our lives. I am copying a couple of the wonderful, tear-jerker remembrances that we share with each other during these sad times. I hope you enjoy and I hope if you have had the same loss that these will give you a few minutes to remember your treasured friends who have gone to the Rainbow Bridge.
The Rainbow Bridge
There is a bridge connecting Heaven and Earth. It is called the Rainbow Bridge because of its many colors. Just this side of the Rainbow Bridge, there is a land of meadows, hills and valleys with lush green grass.
When a beloved pet dies, the pet goes to this place. There is always food and water and warm spring weather. The old and frail animals are young again. Those who are maimed are made whole again. They play all day with each other.
There is only one thing missing; they are not with their special person who loved them on earth. So each day they run and play until the day comes when one suddenly looks up! The nose twitches. The ears are up. The eyes are staring. And this one suddenly runs from the group.
You have been seen, and when you and your special friend meet, you take him or her in your arms and embrace. Your face is kissed again and again and again, and you look once more into the eyes of your trusting pet.
Then you cross the Rainbow Bridge together, never again to be separated.
– Elaine J. Marks
And another sweet remembrance:
I could see that you were crying, you found it hard to sleep.
I whined to you softly as you brushed away a tear.
‘It’s me, I haven’t left you, I’m well, I’m fine, I’m here.”
I was close to you at breakfast, I watched you pour the tea,
You were thinking of the many times your hands reached down to me.
I was with you at the shops today, your arms were getting sore.
I longed to take your parcels, I wished I could do more.
I was with you at my grave today you tend it with such care
I want to reassure you that I’m not lying there.
I walked with you towards the house, as you fumbled for your key,
I gently put my paw on you, I smiled and said ‘It’s me.’
You looked so very tired and then you sank into a chair,
I tried so hard to let you know that I was standing there.
It’s possible for me to be so near you everyday
To say to you with certainty , ‘I never went away.’
You sat there very quietly, then smiled, I think you knew
That in the stillness of that evening I was very close to you.
The day is over … I smile and watch you yawning
and say , ‘Goodnight, sweet dreams, God bless,
I’ll see you in the morning.’
And when the time is right for you to cross the brief divide
I’ll rush to greet you and we’ll stand together side by side.
I have so many things to show you, there’s much for you to see.
Be patient, live your journey out
Then come home and be with me.”
I wish I were a better writer. There is so much I would like to say. But to all who read this blog, thank you for the love you give your pets!
Jenet Mullins is a retired sales executive from the media industry. As a Poodle Parent she shares her experiences and true life situations as a rescue adopter. Find her at Mediagal on Twitter or Jenet Mullins on Facebook.